I know the thoughts of many, because I have thought them, too. She is backdoor bragging. She should be flattered that she is attractive enough to garner that attention. Take it as a compliment.
A few months before my first year of college, I walked by a bar on my way from work back home. I was eighteen, working a the GAP in Lake Placid, a small mountain town in the Adirondacks. Men were standing outside the bar on that summer night, drinking and laughing, a decorative bobsled next to them. As I walked by I heard them shout, "Hey! Hey you! Pretty girl! Come over here!" I did not make eye contact. I quickened my steps. I did not give them a response. This made one man angry. As I was a pace or two ahead of them, he screamed "Oh what? You're too good? Bitch! Fucking slut! I'm gonna make you--come here now!" I did not know if I should walk or run, because running could aggravate him further and cause him to go after me. I'm not a fast runner. I did not have any weapons on me, no pepper spray, just a stubby house key. I think I held my breath the entire way home, nails digging into my palms.
In "A Letter to the Guy who Harassed Me Outside the Bar," Emily Heist Moss describes this negative attention that has been so accepted in our culture that it is commonplace. She references comedian, Ever Mainard's bit where she explains that women are always aware of that "their rape" could happen at any moment. In that moment, walking home from work, and so many times since, I have gone through it in my head, 'Okay, I was raped by a group of men who shoved me into a bar-side alley. I was so frightened that I could barely scream. My voice was lost in the terror and pain. They held me down on the rough cement floor and tore my tights and my cotton flower undies, the ones my mom bought me. They laughed and cheered each other on as the blood dripped down my thighs.'
I know that some would call that explicit fictional depiction over-dramatization, but it is in my head. These are scenes that I cannot avoid imagining as a woman in our society today. They are there because of what I see and hear. Every woman has her story. I have heard too many narratives of women scared for their lives to recount. And because there are so many instances of women being tormented, we are taught to shut up and take it as a compliment. I should not have to read articles about how to avoid being abducted. I should not have to be scared to say "Hello" back to a man who greets me on the street. The solution to this problem is not easy, but like most diseases, it begins with awareness and with you.